If you are fat like me, or used to be like some other lucky ex-members of our club who probably bribed the weighing scale to flash skinny, you know the forever-itch to lose weight. Shedding those extra pounds so we don’t have to hide in the shadows, be whisked to dorm rooms and apartments under the cover of night, and then, sent right back in the wee hours of the morning lest some frat bro or roommate belittle the conquest of our douchebag date, used to be our ONLY wish in life. No, I am not ranting – coz I myself find the bitter ‘’ kind of token consolatory refrains mean and derogatory! But there is an undeniable stigma attached to dating a fat girl – like we can be ‘oodles’ of fun to pick for a night but never worthy of being on your arm on date nights or introduced to your friends, much less grace wedding pictures! Or even if you do, you have the know-how for dating one. I am also done dating the tonnes of others who’d deny that I am fat and insist that I am beautiful! To the men – Dating a fat girl may not fall under your quintessential notion of ‘achievement.’ But who made skinny girls queens of the world anyway!This is loosely based on my own experiences as well as the experiences and suggestions of many girls I’ve talked to. You probably think that it’ll make fat girls more likely to contact you first, but honestly it’s hurting your cause more than anything. *(Note, saying things like ‘real women have curves’, ‘only dogs like bones’, ‘skinny girls are gross’ are horrible things to say. It may seem silly to mention, but it actually is important. There’s no special way you need to talk to them, no different procedure, here. Different fat girls have different experiences, but we’ve all experienced a lifetime of discrimination. Be aware that there’s a whole system of oppression working against her, and it’s hard sometimes. Different girls are at different stages of comfort and acceptance of their bodies (and frankly, that goes for all girls of all shapes and sizes! There’s never going to be a one-size-fits-all list, especially when talking about such a large group of people! ) But overall it just comes down to being sensitive, perceptive, and attentive. It makes you sound like all you care about is our bodies, that’s the most important part to you. You are more than welcome to have your preferences, but putting down other body types or other people’s preferences is NOT okay. ) Understand that some things are a little tougher for us. On 15 January 2017, the Argentinian news site Nuevo Diario, among others, published an article with the (translated) headline “Study Confirms That Chubby Women Make a Man Happier Than a Skinny Woman.” That story was picked up by a number of English language sites, including “The Laugh Bible”: New research: Men who marry chubby women are happier and live longer According to a new study, men who are in relationships with chubby women tend to smile more and be better at dealing with problems than men who are in relationships with thin women.The study also shows that thin women tend to be more reserved, more unfriendly and less expressive with their emotions.The Argentinian newspaper Nuevo Diario reports on the findings from the research conducted by Dr Filemón Alvarado and Dr Edgardo Morales at UNAM’s department of psychology.
She won’t even say no to juice cleanses once a week. You see more cushin’ for the pushin’ is always welcome.They will snap out without help from you – but you need to pull your brains out of the trashcan too! So, you can dig into as many sumptuous dishes as your heart craves, and on top of it, we will give you company. The adventure’s on With a fat girl by your side, you will never have to worry about any of those outdoorsy stuff on your to-do list before you hit 30. Sure Never ever do you have to worry about ordering those cocktails, margaritas or any other drink that Skinny Marg orders. Unlike delicate darlas who need you to ‘protect’ them, we are tough cookies who do not snap in two in the face of difficulty.So for those of you who are too ashamed of dating a fat girl, maybe this will help open those locked trashcans a bit: 1. We will greet you with a smile and perhaps, be more forthcoming with the digits to dial. Also, we know all the best places to eat, without burning a hole in the pocket. She is an adrenaline junkie and will never say no to any adventure – coz hey, she isn’t worried about breaking her heel and twisting that ankle. Workout buddies and more A fat girl is aware of the importance of being fit. A fat girl is going to sit with you, downing pitchers of beer like a bro. Sure, we have our moments where we cry help – but more often than not, we will do it just to massage that male ego of yours! We will rip-your-pants with laughter and more Ever walked about with your bootilicious babe arm-in-arm at the supermarket?So I figured I’d create a handy how-to list, which will hopefully be helpful to those ready to pop on out of the fat closet, or who already have but aren’t having much success. Mentioning this first because it’s SUPER important, and it’s the first thing guys tend to mess up on. ) All that being said: weight is just something you shouldn’t mention to anyone in a first conversation, fat or thin. We’re real people with real personalities and feelings. That can be a real self-esteem killer for us, and it can make us gun shy. Just try to assure her that you’re attracted to what’s on the inside the outside! A lot of times when a fat girl is out with a guy in public, people assume that they’re ‘just friends.’ There’s such a stigma out there that fat girls never get the guy. Understand that us ladies live in a culture where every magazine, every commercial, every ad is telling us that our bodies are wrong. It’s not who a person is, but you can’t ignore it either. Your mileage may vary on any of these points, of course.This is written in a pretty heteronormative manner, which I apologize for, but the experiences I’m most familiar with are men trying to chase women. I’ve seen so many opening lines, especially on dating sites, along the lines of Here’s the thing. It makes us feel like you’re talking to us JUST for our body. You don’t need to have the username ‘bbwlover2012’, you don’t need to talk in your profile about how you’re looking for a fat girl, or how you define yourself as a chubby chaser*. So we can tend to be a little leery when a guy professes interest. If you’ve managed to stick by rule number one, you might get a question like ‘So you don’t care that I’m fat? Take her out to dinner, to the movies, walk around town. We are not represented in media except as comic relief or the ‘before’ picture in a diet ad. Chances are, there will be days when someone says something vicious and it’s hard for her to shake it off. Living in a fat bodies shapes many experiences for a person, and it’s important to understand and be sensitive to it. If she wants to call herself chunky, or curvy, or voluptuous, let her. And if you’re going to compliment her, don’t do it in a backhanded way. All girls are different, all girls want slightly different things. Girls like a guy who has got presence and men love a cuddly lass.