We can’t all be Rihanna finding love in hopeless places, now.Still, I decided against my better judgment to give it a shot once more. Still, I continued to swipe until I finally saw someone who caught my eye. He messaged me the next day and we had a nice dialogue going. After days of exchanging numbers, he immediately asked me on a date for the very next evening.We hadn’t even made it official and he was talking about breaking up. When I saw him on a dating site six weeks after the split (after him telling me earlier that he didn’t want to see other people; he just wasn’t ready for a relationship), I panicked.He told me he didn’t want to lose me, nor did he want his baggage to ruin what we had. This lasted for all of about twenty-four hours when he ended it. I confronted him about it and he took no accountability for ending things the way he did.Why was I upset about someone whose opinion of me, quite frankly, doesn’t matter?The people whose opinions matter are the ones who have actually stood by me through thick and thin. I've read many messages on here with women being in my shoes with practically the same problem. He talked about marriage first, kids first, told me I was his best friend. I'm not the type of woman that's get mad at the mistress, I get mad at the man. It would make sense to be angry at the man because there are two types of mistresses: the type who knows that she's taking part in an affair and the type who doesn't know that she's the other woman. Investigation is probably more formal, so I'd figure you'd want to beef up on the paperwork by researching how to advertise your services, knowing the different methods to use in catching your targets, etc. ) screaming, pushing, shoving, threatening to punch.I was the 28 yr old women so in love that I had blinded myself to these red flags and he didn't have to have an excuse for anything because I made them for him. Now, I'm not a stalker or a person who "checks up" on their man. I got lies after lies when questioned about it the next day. All these shady things he did before, now I know why. The house was so dilapidated (in my price range) and b/c my boyfriend is a master contractor, he's basically getting free room and board for his labour on the place.
Most people might define it as responsibilities or commitments to others, such as ex spouses, in-laws or to children after a divorce. We all come to our present situations with our past experiences accumulated.I was dating a divorced man with 3 children, he's 10 years older than I. But why wouldn't he want me included in ALL of his life, makes no sense. He started working a lot of overtime and started staying less nights with me. By this time it's been 6 hours, he can't still be there, right? Both unfortunate and fortunately, I pulled up at the same time I saw him and another woman walking out together. I couldn't be around the kids/family because he didn't really see us as a serious couple. The children were allowed to run wild at my house and that was perfectly acceptable to their father. I"m a mother too (was a single mom) and know that letting your kids rule the roost is no way to run a household. I'm here to tell you, I wasted 8 months of my life on this man. He had never felt so in love in his life, like we were meant to be. However, I was unhappy with the fact that I couldn't have anything to do with his children and when I brought the subject up, I never really got a reason on why. Suddenly I had this overwhelming, heart-wrenching feeling to go to that bar. I'd love to help women bust the sorry SOB's that think they can have their cake and eat it too like they're God's gift to women. NEVER EVER get involved with a man who has a "previously enjoyed" family. I bought a house so he could be "closer to his kids" and the second we did the ex wife got even more restrictive with the children.He has convinced himself that he is being honest with me. I came to realize he will find another awesome girl and do the same thing to her to fill his void of being alone Lather. Repeat I sent myself in to a six-week black hole, and I will never get those six weeks back.I always thought of myself as someone who had high self-esteem, but I began questioning why I was upset over someone who shut me out so intensely and quickly.These experiences inform our thinking and our behavior.