A secure and loving relationship can give us stability and comfort—someone to cuddle with on the couch and binge-watch TV with—but this is at odds with our equally strong need for adventure, novelty, and discovery.
Paradoxically, we strive to have both connection and freedom, to be close and safe but also to fan the enticing white-hot flames of our desire.
We often define love as security and comfort, which is at odds with our view of desire.
Desire conjures freedom, excitement, and adventure. During my many years as a therapist in New York City, I frequently encountered this complaint: Couples love each other but their sex lives have become rote, tedious, and devoid of eroticism.
We’ve analysed millions of ‘communications’ between our e uk members and found that men who list travelling, exercise, theatre, dancing and cooking receive the most interactions from women online.
That is, of course, until you decide to take your relationship to the next level.
When it comes to anything physical the pieces of the puzzle just don’t seem to fit.
Alleged Umpqua Community College shooter Chris Harper Mercer took the lives of 10 people in Roseburg, Oregon.
He had an online dating profile on "Spiritual Passions" under the username "IRONCROSS45." Chris Harper Mercer was identified as the gunman in the shooting at Umpqua Community College in Roseburg, Oregon, CBS News reports.