In that post and in a follow-up one, I talked about my issue with her love of an occasional glass of wine and how it was really a “me problem”.
[…] A few months ago I went on a coffee date with a very wonderful woman and ever since then we have been seeing each other.
Here’s what to do: Your go/no-go window remains the third date, but the signals will be all new. My ex self-immolated when I joked about meeting his 6-year-old anytime before she was, say, old enough to drive. I treat my date’s offspring like feral, if adorable, animals—keeping my distance and letting them make the first move.
You now have to schedule sex around a third-party: the tyke. He slow-walked the intro since it reminded him his wife was never coming back and he was alone. And whether she calls you her BF or the plumber, just roll with it. And if he really hates you, but she doesn’t dump you, be flattered: She wants to keep you around. Ask only that the menagerie be respectful, with no name-calling, biting, or mud-slinging catapults.
With rugrats in the picture, there’s zero chance you’ll ever be the top person in this woman’s life—but that window of narcissism was short-lived anyway (if it existed at all).
People without children don’t have much of a concept of what it’s like to be tethered to home for feeding, napping, school, and extracurricular activities. And because you keep choosing men without kids, you’ve come to the conclusion that the Brady Bunch life is a fantasy. He has to understand that, as a parent, you need a little slack, because you don’t control your own schedule.If you're feeling nervous or confused about entering the complex world of dating again, you're not alone. Cheese, library, my backyard -- I don't really find myself in adult environments these days.Read on as single parents share their dating dilemmas and Amy Spencer, relationship expert and author of "Meeting Your Half-Orange: An Utterly Upbeat Guide to Using Dating Optimism to Find Your Perfect Match" solves them. How can I meet a guy when I don't really go out to the bars or clubs anymore?I am 41, have never been married and don’t have any kids.At this very juncture of my life, I have no burning desire to have kids.So, we’ve been together for three months now and everything is going very, very well. And believe me, I am no angel and have plenty of my own issues.